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What is mindfulness in DBT

Mindfulness in DBT: How this core skill can help you

What is mindfulness? Mindfulness is paying attention on purpose to what is happening right now. When you practice mindfulness, you focus your attention on your present experience; just noticing whatever is happening in each moment, not lost in the past or thinking about the future. Mindfulness is the opposite of being on automatic pilot. When… Continue Reading »

What’s DBT’s wise mind?

What is Wise Mind in DBT?

What is Wise Mind? Wise Mind is a foundational DBT concept. Dialectical Behavior Therapy is an evidence-based therapy that was originally created to help people who feel overwhelmed by the intensity of their emotions. The concept of Wise Mind, though, can be beneficial to everyone. Wise Mind is an internal state of wisdom, or knowledge…. Continue Reading »

What is the myth of spontaneity in relationships?

The Myth of Spontaneity

As a San Francisco couple’s therapist, I regularly see couples that have gotten so busy with every day life that they’ve put their relationship on the back burner, where it sits, ignored. It’s easy to prioritize everything else – work, school, family and socializing – the list could go on and on. But prioritizing your… Continue Reading »

Do you have an unbalanced relationship?

Is your relationship unbalanced?

Is your relationship unbalanced? Do you give too much in your relationship? Are you the only one putting out energy to keep the relationship on track? Do you sometimes wish that your partner gave to you half as much as you give to them? If so, your relationship is out of balance.   An unbalanced… Continue Reading »

Negative self-talk

What a stupid thing to do!

How do you talk to yourself when you make a mistake? What a stupid thing to do! How could I be so dumb? What’s wrong with me?! – or worse – I’m such a loser. I can’t do anything right. Does this sound familiar?   Negative Self-Talk The things you say to yourself when you’ve… Continue Reading »