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#28: Listener Questions

The Skillful Podcast Episode 28 Listener Questions

Today Marielle and Ed answer listener questions.  The first question is from a listener in Sweden about how to cope with anger at others for not taking the COVID-19 pandemic seriously.  Question two is about how to use DEAR MAN to say no. The final question in this episode is about how to figure out…

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#27: Radical Acceptance During a Pandemic

#27: Radical Acceptance During a Pandemic

Today’s show revisits Radical Acceptance in the face of a global pandemic. Marielle and Ed discuss how they are using this skill (or not using it!) during this time. Ed is using Radical Acceptance a lot lately, as he feels like it is often the only thing to do in this situation. Marielle shares her…

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#25: Coping With COVID-19 [Part 2]

#25: Coping With COVID-19 [Part 2]

Today, Marielle and Ed continue to discuss DBT skills to cope during a pandemic. We are all going through a collective trauma and need extra support. The DBT skill called Check The Facts is explored. We also explore the difficulty in using this skill during a time when things are rapidly changing and uncertain. Using…

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#24: Coping With COVID-19 [Part 1]

#24: Coping With COVID-19 [Part 1]

In today’s episode, Marielle and Ed explore skills to help you cope with your emotions as we collectively face a pandemic. Many of you may be feeling intense distress on a regular basis during these uncertain times. DBT offers lots of skills to help manage strong, painful emotions like fear and panic. Different ways of…

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#23: Pros and Cons

Ep 23: Pros and Cons

Today’s show covers the DBT skill called Pros and Cons. While most of us have already done informal pro and con lists in our heads when facing a tough decision, the DBT take on Pros and Cons is a little different.  Pros and Cons is great to use in anticipation of problem behaviors like avoiding,…

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#22: Build Mastery and Cope Ahead

Build Mastery and Cope Ahead

In today’s episode, Marielle and Ed discuss the emotion regulation skills of Build Mastery and Cope Ahead. These are future-oriented skills that involve some planning to carry out. Build Mastery is a way to strengthen your sense of competence by doing small, regular things that are challenging. Over time, this skill will help you stretch…

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#21: Surviving Sexual Assault with Dr. Kelsey Harper

Surviving Sexual Assault with Dr. Kelsey Harper

Today I’m talking with Dr. Kelsey Harper, a clinical psychologist and DBT therapist who works with trauma, PTSD, and chronic emotion dysregulation.  With over a decade of work spanning varying settings and clientele, Kelsey has established a private practice in Santa Monica and observed time and again, that many clients reported extensive histories of trauma…

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#20: How Do You Talk to Yourself?

how do you talk to yourself

In today’s episode, we discuss your relationship with yourself, focusing on the skill of Loving-Kindness. When you are having a hard time, are you kind or harsh with yourself?  Do you berate yourself for real or perceived mistakes?   Do you try to motivate yourself with criticism?  These tactics tend to not work in the long-run…

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#19: What are Your Values?

Season 2 Episode 19: What are Your Values?

Instead of making New Year’s resolutions this year, think about using the momentum of the new year to make changes in your life that are aligned with your values.  Often New Year’s resolutions come from a place of shame or deficiency, a place of trying to fix what’s “wrong” with you. What if you made…

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