Skip to content
Make an Appointment
415-310-5142
Check the Facts Bay Area DBT podcast

15: Check the Facts

In Episode 15 of The Skillful Podcast, Marielle and Ed discuss checking the facts. When you have a painful emotion that you want to change, using the DBT skill called Check the Facts can be very helpful. Sometimes strong, painful emotions aren’t a reaction to what has actually happened but are based on beliefs, interpretations, and assumptions about what has happened. Use this skill to help you change emotions YOU want to change – not emotions other people in your life want you to change.

Show Highlights:

  • Emotions might not be based on facts
  • Sometimes just checking the facts can bring down a painful emotion quickly
  • Start by naming the specific emotion that you want to change
  • What event brought on the emotion?
  • Be non-judgmental when describing what prompted the emotion
  • Name your interpretations, judgments, assumptions, and thoughts about the prompting event
  • Identify the stories your mind is telling you
  • Ask yourself what you’re scared of 
  • Imagine the worst-case scenario and think about how you would cope
  • Often painful emotions are based on assuming a threat and minimizing our ability to cope
  • Assess whether the intensity of your emotion fits the facts
  • Assess whether how long your emotion is lasting fits the facts
  • Remind yourself that you have the capacity to get through very painful things
  • Sometimes the emotion fits the facts but acting on it isn’t effective

Links & Resources

To learn more about DBT and therapy in general, read our blog.

DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets, Second Edition

Would you like to ask a question and have the chance for it to be answered on the podcast? If so, please use this form. Please note that asking a question and this podcast in general is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health treatment.