Why you need to dream: Building a Life Worth Living in DBT (Part 1)


By Marielle Berg | April 20, 2017
Part 1 of 3 in the series ‘Building a life worth living in DBT’ – find out why you need to dream as the first step in DBT.

What makes your life worth living? This is the first post in a series of three, about Building a Life Worth Living in DBT Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) has a catchphrase: “Building Lives Worth Living.” This phrase is used because some people come to DBT at the end of their rope, struggling with thoughts of…

Do you find practicing mindfulness hard?

By Marielle Berg | April 13, 2017
The common mindfulness practice challenges

Do you find practicing mindfulness challenging? You’re not alone.
 Mindfulness is the foundational skill of DBT. Mindfulness helps reduce emotional suffering and reactivity. Mindfulness helps you feel more in control of particular thoughts and emotions that may make you feel like you’re out of control. Mindfulness is counter-culture. It requires you to slow down and…

Does Couples Therapy Work?

By Marielle Berg | April 6, 2017
How does couples therapy work?

“Does Couples Therapy Work?” As couples therapists in San Francisco, we often hear this question. The answer, like many things in life (and especially in therapy), isn’t straightforward. First, let’s define what couples therapy “working” means. Does it mean that you will: Never fight with your partner again?
 No. Learn how to fight smarter? Yes.…

I am not OK

By Marielle Berg | March 31, 2017
I am not OK – it’s a rather common feeling, but you can get help to deal with your feeling of not being OK

I am not OK As San Francisco therapists specializing in DBT and couples therapy, we work with a lot of people who worry that at their core, they are not OK. The feeling of not being ok can sound like: I am a mess. I am f***ed up. I am not enough. I am unlikable.…

Are you losing control during relationship conflicts?

By Marielle Berg | March 23, 2017
Do you struggle with losing control in your relationship conflicts?

Losing control during your relationship conflicts? Couples Therapy can help you. As San Francisco DBT therapists with expertise in couples therapy, we work with many couples who struggle with losing control during conflict. If you lose control when you and your partner experience conflict or have a disagreement, it’s not because you’re a bad person…

Tips from a San Francisco Couples Therapist: Should we start therapy?

By Marielle Berg | March 9, 2017
When is it time to start couples therapy?

Wondering if it’s time for you to start couples therapy in San Francisco? Couples often think about starting therapy for a while before they take the leap and set up that first appointment. Sometimes, couples wait too long. Old hurts and resentments can’t be healed. Or you’ve grown so far apart; it’s impossible to connect…

DBT’s Mindfulness Skill: HOW Part 2

By Marielle Berg | February 16, 2017
The HOW skills of mindfulness in DBT are how you practice the WHAT skills

In Part 1 of DBT’s mindfulness skills, we looked at the first of the HOW skills of mindfulness – nonjudgmentally. Mindfulness in DBT is broken up into WHAT and HOW skills The WHAT skills are what you do to be mindful. You: • Observe • Describe • Participate The HOW skills of mindfulness are how…

DBT’s Mindfulness Skill: HOW Part 1

By Marielle Berg | February 9, 2017
Practice the Mindfulness DBT HOW skills

The Mindfulness skills of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) teach you how to be present in each moment, with awareness and without judgment. Mindfulness skills are broken up into 2 sets: DBT WHAT skills: What you do to practice mindfulness. These skills are practiced one at a time: • Observe • Describe • Participate DBT HOW…

Want to reduce your suffering? Be mindful.

By Marielle Berg | February 2, 2017
Learn why Mindfulness is the core skill of Dialectical Behavior Therapy

Mindfulness is the core skill of DBT. It’s the first skill taught in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) group, and it is the only skill that we return to again and again, reviewing the key concepts of mindfulness between each DBT skill module. How to be Mindful Pay attention to the present moment. On purpose. Without…

What is DBT?

By Marielle Berg | January 26, 2017
What is Dialectical Behavior Therapy? And how does it differ from other therapies?

Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is a type of therapy that helps people who struggle with emotional dysregulation. This post will answer common questions about DBT. But first, let’s start by describing what emotional dysregulation looks like. How DBT defines emotional dysregulation: People who have a hard time regulating their emotions can either be overwhelmed by…